Your past shapes who you are. The experiences you have throughout your life play an integral part in how you behave and look at the world. This may not seem like a big deal, but in certain circumstances, it can become a detriment to your success.
When you keep your focus on the past, you run the risk of negatively affecting your future. Your work life, your love life, and even your day-to-day life can be affected by an inability to move past negative experiences.
While some fears are healthy, most can actually hold us back. Most fears are caused by prior experiences. They are tied to memories of pain or discomfort and we rely on those memories to help guide us through life.
It is important though to understand our fears and where fears come from. For those fears that are holding us back it is important that we face them and push past them so that we can set our futures up for success.
If we are not careful, our fears can close us off to new experiences.
Grudges can run deep. If we feel wronged, we might find it challenging to let the trespasser atone for their mistake.
Anger seems justified in a lot of these circumstances. However, forgiveness is a major part of the healing process that can result in a tremendous restoration. By holding on to anger we are holding on to the past. We are not letting ourselves move forward.
Keep the Past in the Past, Allow Space for Forgiveness and Healing.
Emotional responses are normal, and grieving is a necessary process in tragic circumstances. However, remaining stuck in that emotional state is dangerous. Emotional wounds begin to heal when, after a time of grieving, you allow yourself to move on.
Take time to recover from negative experiences. However, it’s equally important that you make an effort to let bygones be bygones. Exercise the practice of maintaining a positive outlook, even after a bad experience. Learn the lesson that the experience offers, file it away in your mind and choose to head in a positive direction.
The past has value and should not be discarded, but once you’ve learned those lessons, take what you’ve learned and use it to move forward with a positive attitude in the direction of your dreams.